Boys will be Boys; Respect Yourself

University is full of surprises. When I came to school, I had this deluded idea of finding Mr. Right. Everyone seems to leave University at the end of their four years with a partner and I figured I would meet mine during my first year. Wrong. Boys in first year only want sex. They just want to get your pants off. At least the ones I met anyway. They were usually blatant about the fact that they just wanted to fool around.

Is it my fault I thought I could change his mind? That I stuck around long enough to get hurt? Yeah, it is. If someone is honest enough to tell you the truth, take it at face value and be friends. Unless all you want is to fool around – in that case, all the power to you.
The first boy I didn’t believe. I figured that he would be won over by my sheer awesomeness and fall for me. He didn’t, and I held out. In the end, holding out was all that mattered, but I did continue to go out with him. I was right about him though; he ended up moving on to another girl in a few weeks. He probably did get to sleep with her pretty quickly.

Now the second boy, I had actually grown to really like over the course of the year. But he was another one of those dastardly boys who didn’t want to be tied down. I didn’t tie him down and I didn’t sleep with him. He remained intensely frustrated with me until I left for summer break. I’m over him now. He’s probably moved on to someone more willing to get naked for him.

Seriously, if he can’t like you for more than what’s in your pants, then move on and find someone who respects you and values you. I guess there's nothing wrong with it if you sleep with someone who wants nothing else from you and then can still look at yourself in the mirror the next morning. But I couldn't.